Move along Halloween...nothing to see here

Brace yourself.

You ready?

Here it goes...

I don't like Halloween.

I told you to brace yourself! 

 It's mainly because I'm not a fan of anything that portrays spooks and hocus pocus. I don't like scary movies and I don't like creepy costumes and yelling at strangers to scare the hibbie jibbies out of them. Is that weird? I don't think so.

Now, don't get me wrong, I know that Halloween isn't all about the creepy-crawlers, in fact, I used to love the idea of dressing up like a princess in pink every year, but that all changed when people turned a fun day into an unsafe one.

If I can go back to my days of youth, trust me, I would. Those days were pure bliss. Pumpkin carving with my Dad, getting my makeup done by my Mom and sister Melissa, squeeling in excitement to walk door-to-door with my sister Mandy and all her friends, and pining over the cute neighbor's kids, one dressed up like a pea in a pod and the other snow white, which I aspired to be like the following year. who was I kidding? I was going to be a princess, again.

 

And although I still enjoy seeing neighboring houses decked out with goons and goblins and the sweet children all excited to fill their bags with candy, knocking on my door while singing the usual chant, I'm pretty okay with dawning my pink tiara and snuggling indoors on the couch with Bella.

Who by the way, was a butterfly in her past life. Oh, and so was my sister Sara, a sum five years ago, while being accompanied by a darling ladybug if I do say so myself.

 

Happy Halloween! Stay Safe!

xo

Lisa Love 

Fall & Knits

Fall & Knits by ladylisalove featuring 2nd Day

 

HAPPY FRIDAY Y'ALL!

okay, so I might not be Southern, nor a little bit county, but I am a bit rock 'n' roll. My favorite season is upon us and I am thrilled with the cooler weather we Calis are experiencing and I've brought it upon myself to adorn my outfit with the ultimate blue scarf and proudly stomp around the office in my favorite  pair of Uggs.  And let me just tell you, people (coworkers) are taking notice.

 

 In fact, one guy complimented my scarf, another mentioned the chilly temperatures and one delighted in the fact that she "couldn't wait to dust off her boots and prepare them for next week's outfit."  So what does that tell you? It tells you that everyone loves the FALL!!!  

 

Get ready because this season's must have staple is a chunky knit!

 

Whether it's an awesomely over sized sweater (preferably), a knitted scarf (duh!) or a tribal designed or loosely fitting beanie (of course!) all items are well received.

 

My favorite pairing:

Like the simple basics of the summer (think white tee with loose fit jeans), a chunky sweater can be just as versatile, but opt for skinny or boot cut jeans in this case, as loose fitting can make you seem like a pile of puddin' and not the delicious looking kind.

 

Accessorize with what else?

Gold Hoops! small ones, medium ones or large will do. If you're a bit edgy, go for the ones that have wording in them.  Want more elegance? Choose a simple clear/white diamond/rhinestone stud or pearl. This look is sweet and understated to complement a bulky sweater and frame-fitting jeans.

Shoes, Shoes, Shoes

Shoes and handbags should be chosen dependent upon your plans for the day AND your style. If you're a relaxed girl who is looking to be laid back, lace up your favorite converse. Got a party-rocker persona? Step into your snakeskin booties. Looking to show off your butt or legs? Slide on your tall boots with the heels. You know which ones I'm talking about you sex-kitten, you.

 

Others

What about the hair? The make up? The...... guuuurrrrllll, take a deep breath. I'm just helping you with your outfit today, but with the right attitude  you've got the rest under control. I can just feel it in my chilly bones. Take a look at yourself in the mirror and repeat after me. "I am such a bad ass!"  See? instant boom!

 

Have a cozy rest of your day!

 

Xo

Lisa Love

H&M cotton sweater, $32 / H&M brown cable knit sweater, $24 / 2nd Day outerwear, $325 / Michael Kors loop scarf / Forever 21 pom beanie hat / Forever 21 scarve / Forever 21 scarve / H&M cable knit beanie hat, $11

Are you talking to me?

"All learning has an emotional base."-- Plato

In a world of give and receive, it's incredibly important to self proclaim our emotions, as well as learn how to control them. It is also highly important to learn how to understand and respond to the emotions of others. Unless of course, they overstep their boundaries.

Why is proclaiming your emotions so important?
To proclaim ones true self helps a person identify his/her own problems or joys. It allows us to trust what our heart and mind is feeling and relay those feelings to the outside world.

By communicating our emotional state at any current moment, we allow ourselves to truly invest in that state and also send signals to the universe that are necessary to help others give us space, or come closer. In the book, The Secret, a slew of artist, scientist, and philosophers explain the theory that when you proactively live a life of positive thinking, you will attract positive things, and vice versa.

Why is it important to understand and respond appropriately to others proclamations?
If we do not properly listen to the words and emotions being shared by others, we can do one of two things: The first is to interrupt with our need to share and relay things back to ourselves. The second, is to easily misinterpret what the subject is saying and walk ourselves straight into a land mine.

A miscommunication of emotions and feelings can force subject x to burst into an offset of emotions that were carefully tucked away while they were initially expressing something else.

(Important Note: If you are someone who only likes to talk and never listen,  please talk to a wall or face a mirror so you don't feel lonely because the one-way street disorder you have isn't working for anyone else.)

Where was I? Oh  yes, when these land mines occur it can cause unbearable responses by both parties and lead to an intoxicating relationship or at the very least, make for an uncomfortable conversation that ends in silence.

Communication is key to helping us understand one another and so is listening, but expressing is even more vital because without expression you can not communicate your truest desires or heartfelt release.

So.. .isn't yelling a form of expression? The answer is yes, but it's not one anyone wants to listen to, not even the one-way street human,  especially when they are yelling also. So although you would like to throw a temper tantrum towards the person who just interrupted you sorting through feelings, it's better to reel it in and think about your role in the emotional exchange.

You may have been the one to start it, but you also may need to be the listener.  This my friend is what Psychologist refer to as Emotional Intelligence. Look it up, check it out, soak it all in. If you're going to live on this planet, you need to learn how to relate to others. Shutting down and going MIA may help for a bit, and I encourage you to do that from time to time, but ultimately you're going to need to talk to someone and you're going to have to listen.

Okay, BIG HUGS! Have an awesome day!

Xo
Lisa Love